Today, as I was listening to a CD album in my vehicle on my drive to work, I heard the phrase, “We’re not waiting for the move of God. We ARE the move of God.” I’ve heard this phrase thousands of times before; however, it hit me a little bit differently today.
Cory and I are personally going through some significant struggles in our life; however, that doesn’t change what God has called us to do. What if what God has called us to do is to BE the MOVE of God? What if we decide not to take on that responsibility and actually do the work of the Lord? I understand God will just find other people to do what we were supposed to do. However, he prefers our personal participation and obedience, which would probably be much easier than to find some other alternative. To God, we are his first-string player, his first choice. He doesn’t want to have to call on his second-string player unless we become unwilling to participate.
I will be the first to admit life is difficult at times. However, God has given us the strength to continue to move forward and do whatever he has called us to do. More often than not, I don’t realize the significance of my own life and the role I play in the lives of the people around me. I’m sure that may be difficult for you to realize also – how significant YOU are in the lives of those within your circle of influence.
If I think about how many lives we’ve touched through Transformed Hearts, it would be an incredible movement of God if EACH one of those families, couples or individuals would truly live out the calling God has for them. If men and women were faithful to one another in marriage, if people would do the hard work of recovery and truly develop intimacy with their partner the way God intended, we wouldn’t have as many divorced couples. We wouldn’t have as many separated families. We would have people who are willing to share their testimony, their struggle and their story to encourage, inspire, and promote healthy marriages throughout the world. We would be developing an army of believers who would go out and proclaim the Gospel message and shout it from the rooftops! They would be excited and thrilled about the work the Lord has done in their lives. It would be just as if someone had raised your son or daughter, mother or father, wife or husband from the dead. Of course, wouldn’t you shout it from the rooftops?
But somehow our voices are silenced. Somehow, the enemy has taught us that there’s so much guilt and shame associated with what we do here at Transformed Hearts that no one wants to be vocal or share about it.
If God gave you a story, he gave it to you for reason and a purpose. If you don’t start sharing your story, how many lives won’t be changed because you stayed silent? You never know what might happen when you share a story with someone. What’s the worst thing that could happen? They might look at you like you’re a freak and want to never speak with you again. Or, you might open a door and play a significant role in someone’s life to encourage, support and uplift them through a very difficult situation. However, you’ll never know if you never speak out.
Is it worth not being obedient to God? Or, are you going to decide today to start doing what God called you to do, to start telling your story, to start encouraging others, to start inspiring other people to stay in their marriages and to work through the difficult times to build communities and families who seek to obey and pursue godly principles?
When you get to heaven’s doors, do you think God will be happy with what you’ve chosen, with the decision you’ve made with the pain that has been placed in your life? Will you finally see the purpose in it? Will you see all of the unleashed potential that you had here on this earth that you didn’t pursue? Or, will God look at you and say, “well done”?
Start being the person you want to be. It’s a new year. It’s a new season of life. As my favorite author Beth Moore says, “People aren’t looking for you to have it all together. They’re looking to see what happens when you don’t.” Amazingly, people want and desire authenticity. They want to know how to live out their faith when life is hard.
At Transformed Hearts, word-of-mouth is our best referral. However, with so many people who are willing to stay in the shadow of guilt and shame, many peoples lives will never be touched or changed because no one’s willing to share what they’ve been through. Cory and I have always prayed that our pain would not be wasted. We’ve always wanted God to use our pain for his glory. I feel like we’ve been a standing example, placed all of our dirty laundry out there for everyone to see and hear that there is hope! However, I’m not going to lie to you. Life is hard. This commitment comes with a significant cost AND responsibility.
If Transformed Hearts has helped you in any way, I ask that you prayerfully consider sharing your testimony with others, sharing your recovery journey, or writing a review on our website, Facebook, Twitter, or Google page. We need YOUR help to transform marriages throughout the world with a message of hope. Without you doing your part, we will never be able to reach the people that you can reach. Maybe you have a small group you meet with, maybe you have a circle of friends you hang out with – maybe these are the people God has in your life for this very reason. These are all people Cory and I will never be able to reach.
You have the ability to start today and be the change you want to see in the world. Be strong and courageous. If you want God to save your marriage, start saving it yourself by being the change you want to see. Take the first step. That first step could change your entire future as well as the future of those who are depending on you to share your story and walk alongside them in their own recovery.
And don’t forget, you ARE the MOVE of God! You ARE his first-string player!
Kerry Schortzman is the Director of Operations at Transformed Hearts Counseling Center as well as an author and speaker. She has traveled the road of recovery alongside her husband through the wildfires of intimacy anorexia. She has a heart and passion to see healing and restoration in relationships and marriages as well as to bring public awareness to eliminate sex and human trafficking. Kerry has been married since 1998 and lives in Colorado with her husband and four daughters. She and Cory have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery.
Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.