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  • MON Into the Light Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.03
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 8:30-10:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Intentional Freedom Group

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.03
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Into the Light On-Site (COS)

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.03
    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday | 15455 Gleneagle Dr., Ste 200, Colorado Springs, CO

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  • TUES Ashes to Beauty Group

    10:00 AM-11:30 AM
    2017.04.04
    Teleconferenc Call

    Teleconferenc Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 10:00-11:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES Into the Light Group

    3:30 PM-5:00 PM
    2017.04.04
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 3:30-5:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES 12 Step Group

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.04
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

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  • WED Intentional Freedom

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.05
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Wednesday

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  • THURS Into the Light On-Site Group (DENVER)

    5:30 PM-7:00 PM
    2017.04.06
    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 5:30-7:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Thursday

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  • FRI Intentional Freedom Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.07
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:30-8:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI 12 Step Group

    9:00 AM-10:30 AM
    2017.04.07
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 9:00-10:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI Ashes to Beauty On-Site Group (PARKER)

    9:30 AM-11:00 AM
    2017.04.07
    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    FACILITATOR | Julee McManus | 9:30-11:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday | Southeast Christian Church | 9650 Jordan Road, Parker, CO

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  • MON Into the Light Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.10
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 8:30-10:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Intentional Freedom Group

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.10
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Into the Light On-Site (COS)

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.10
    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday | 15455 Gleneagle Dr., Ste 200, Colorado Springs, CO

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  • TUES Ashes to Beauty Group

    10:00 AM-11:30 AM
    2017.04.11
    Teleconferenc Call

    Teleconferenc Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 10:00-11:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES Into the Light Group

    3:30 PM-5:00 PM
    2017.04.11
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 3:30-5:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES 12 Step Group

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.11
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

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  • WED Intentional Freedom

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.12
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Wednesday

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  • THURS Into the Light On-Site Group (DENVER)

    5:30 PM-7:00 PM
    2017.04.13
    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 5:30-7:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Thursday

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  • FRI Intentional Freedom Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.14
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:30-8:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI 12 Step Group

    9:00 AM-10:30 AM
    2017.04.14
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 9:00-10:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI Ashes to Beauty On-Site Group (PARKER)

    9:30 AM-11:00 AM
    2017.04.14
    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    FACILITATOR | Julee McManus | 9:30-11:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday | Southeast Christian Church | 9650 Jordan Road, Parker, CO

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  • MON Into the Light Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.17
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 8:30-10:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Intentional Freedom Group

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.17
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Into the Light On-Site (COS)

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.17
    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday | 15455 Gleneagle Dr., Ste 200, Colorado Springs, CO

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  • TUES Ashes to Beauty Group

    10:00 AM-11:30 AM
    2017.04.18
    Teleconferenc Call

    Teleconferenc Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 10:00-11:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES Into the Light Group

    3:30 PM-5:00 PM
    2017.04.18
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 3:30-5:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES 12 Step Group

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.18
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

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  • WED Intentional Freedom

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.19
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Wednesday

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  • THURS Into the Light On-Site Group (DENVER)

    5:30 PM-7:00 PM
    2017.04.20
    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 5:30-7:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Thursday

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  • FRI Intentional Freedom Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.21
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:30-8:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI 12 Step Group

    9:00 AM-10:30 AM
    2017.04.21
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 9:00-10:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI Ashes to Beauty On-Site Group (PARKER)

    9:30 AM-11:00 AM
    2017.04.21
    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    FACILITATOR | Julee McManus | 9:30-11:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday | Southeast Christian Church | 9650 Jordan Road, Parker, CO

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  • MON Into the Light Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.24
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 8:30-10:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Intentional Freedom Group

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.24
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday

  • MON Into the Light On-Site (COS)

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.24
    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    15455 Gleneagle Drive, #200 Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday | 15455 Gleneagle Dr., Ste 200, Colorado Springs, CO

  • CANCELED | MON Ashes to Beauty On-Site (COS)

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.24
    15455 Gleneagle Dr., #200, Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    15455 Gleneagle Dr., #200, Colorado Springs, CO 80921

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Monday

    No group this week.

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  • TUES Ashes to Beauty Group

    10:00 AM-11:30 AM
    2017.04.25
    Teleconferenc Call

    Teleconferenc Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 10:00-11:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES Into the Light Group

    3:30 PM-5:00 PM
    2017.04.25
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 3:30-5:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

  • TUES 12 Step Group

    6:00 PM-7:30 PM
    2017.04.25
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 6:00-7:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Tuesday

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  • WED Intentional Freedom

    4:00 PM-5:30 PM
    2017.04.26
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 4:00-5:30 PM Mountain Time | Every Wednesday

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  • THURS Into the Light On-Site Group (DENVER)

    5:30 PM-7:00 PM
    2017.04.27
    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    5290 E Yale Street, #105 Denver, CO 809222

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 5:30-7:00 PM Mountain Time | Every Thursday

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  • FRI Intentional Freedom Group

    8:30 AM-10:00 AM
    2017.04.28
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Cory Schortzman | 6:30-8:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI 12 Step Group

    9:00 AM-10:30 AM
    2017.04.28
    Teleconference Call

    Teleconference Call

    FACILITATOR | Marlene Holsclaw | 9:00-10:30 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday

  • FRI Ashes to Beauty On-Site Group (PARKER)

    9:30 AM-11:00 AM
    2017.04.28
    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    9650 South Jordan Road, Parker, CO, United States

    FACILITATOR | Julee McManus | 9:30-11:00 AM Mountain Time | Every Friday | Southeast Christian Church | 9650 Jordan Road, Parker, CO

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10 Lies Young Women Face in a Porn Culture

To My Dearest Daughters,

It is an honor toArticle 18 Father Daughter be your father. I am thankful God has blessed me not once but four times. He has entrusted me to raise you with good values and morals before you leave the nest to go change the world with the gifts and talents He has given you. As each of you know, there are many obstacles, temptations and lies the world wants you to believe. Your mother and I have tried to instill values in you from the Word of God, the Bible. Here’s a few lies we want you to be aware of.

Lie #1: The Bible is not relevant. It was written by a bunch of controlling men in another time in another land far away. The principles are outdated and will keep you from having fun as well as from discovering yourself and who you really are. You are your own moral compass.

Truth: The truth is that the Bible will always be relevant. It is not a book of rules to keep you from having fun. It’s a book inspired by a loving God who has given you free will. God wants you to exercise your free will wisely so you do not destroy yourself.

Lie #2: You are not responsible for your behaviors; in fact, you are a victim to the world around you. You cannot take care of yourself or think for yourself. It is everyone else’s fault you are having problems. You do not have to change everyone else does.

Truth: The truth is you are not a victim, and this type of thinking will only keep you a victim. Also, you are the only common denominator in all your problems. Once you start to change and take responsibility for your behaviors, life will begin to get better.

Lie #3: Sex is love, and everyone is doing it. Since everyone is doing it, you should too.

Truth: The truth is sex is not love. Sex is a celebration of love between a married man and woman.

Lie #4: You have to have a Prince Charming (or a boyfriend), as he will complete you and meet all of your needs. Some may even say why stop with Prince Charming? Why not have several sexual experiences with many in the hook up culture? Once you are married, you won’t want your husband to think you don’t have any sexual experience to bring to the table.

Lie #5: Why stop there? Why not have sex with other young women also? Young men are just too complicated.

Truth #4 & 5: Prince Charming will not complete you. In fact, if you get involved in the hookup culture, it will only leave you empty and increase your risk of becoming clinically depressed. Sex will only become empty and meaningless. Just as men struggle with pornography and over sexualizing women, women can be guilty of female pornography with over emotionalizing men. Prince Charming will never meet all of your emotional needs. You need to love you first before you can love the man God has planned for you.

Lie #6: You need a Prince Charming to take care of you. Not only do you need a man to take care of you, you need a man to help think for you.

Truth: The truth is you do not need a man to take care of you. Learn to take care of yourself first physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually so that you are secure in who God made you to be. Depending on and valuing the opinion and feelings of others to define you only creates codependency. The only Prince Charming who has your best interest at heart is the God of Heaven. Get to know your Heavenly Father by spending time in His love letter to you (the Bible). Believe who He says you are. Think for yourself. Now, not everything in life is right or wrong. Begin to think in terms of wise or foolish. What is wise for you as a young woman may be foolish for someone else. The more you know the voice of your Creator the wiser you will become.

Lie #7: You are not beautiful enough. You must keep up your outer beauty and look like the women in the movies, on the billboards, and in the magazines.

Truth: The truth is you are beautifully made inside and out no matter your shape or size. Dressing immodestly will attract immodest, broken young men. Your nakedness is part of your holiness and needs to be protected. That holiness is only to be shared with your mature husband, not to be consumed by immature little boys.

Lie #8: It’s okay to compare your beauty to the beauty of those around you.

Truth: The truth is you are beautiful just the way you are, and God does not make junk. Your mother and I love you for just being you, and you are each so very beautiful and unique. Work on your inner beauty…your heart, attitude and gratefulness. You will always lose the game of comparison and only feel like you are never pretty enough or good enough. Comparison invites defeat.

Lie #9: You are loved when you look physically beautiful. To be beautiful, you have to show more skin, wear tight clothing, and show off your cleavage.

Truth: The truth is some of the most ugly women I have met in my life are by worldly standards physically beautiful, but they have hearts of greed, envy, bitterness, offense, anger, jealously, resentment and unforgiveness. They suck the life out of you, and you can’t wait to get away from them. Some of the most beautiful women I have met are by worldly standards perhaps not as physically attractive, but they have hearts full of love, joy, kindness, peace, gratitude and forgiveness. They are wonderful to be around, and you feel energized after spending time with them. These women have what I call God-fidence, because they know they are beautiful and that their physical beauty is only for their husbands. They dress modestly, and their beauty shines through.

Lie #10: Your feelings… are reality. The world wants you to let your feelings lead you. This is what the world wants not only for young women to believe but men also. We hear it in our language and in the media. For example, “If it feels good, do it. Have it your way. I didn’t feel like going to the gym today. I feel like not doing anything today. I feel like shopping.”

Truth: The truth is that feelings are real but not always reality. Allowing your feelings to dictate how you act is a very dangerous and foolish way to live. If you want joy, peace and love in your life, you have to act joyous, peaceful and loving first. Then, those feelings will follow. Act how you want to feel.

Daughters, begin to understand these lies, and you will have a much more abundant, joyful life.

With all my Love,
Your Father



Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman is an author, speaker, teacher and licensed mental health professional. Since 2008, he has served as the Executive Director of Transformed Hearts Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, CO. He is the founder of SARA, the Sexual Addiction Recovery Association. Cory is passionate about helping couples and individuals overcome sex addiction. He is also passionate about bringing awareness to the public and supporting the elimination of sex and human trafficking. Cory has been married since 1998 to his beautiful wife, Kerry, and lives in Colorado with their four daughters. He and Kerry have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery. He has also been heard on numerous radio programs.

Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.

Kerry’s books include: Ashes to Beauty the Book and Ashes to Beauty the Workbook

Co-authored books include: 101 Blogs to Transform your Life, Volume I and Offended Deceived Addicted

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